IndiBlogger recently arranged an exclusive Book Preview of "The Bad Touch "by Payal Shah Karwa ,an IndiBlogger herself.It was at Cafe Infinito,BKC,Mumbai on 5th April,2014.April is the month for Child Sex Abuse Awareness.
The author Payal Shah Karwa wanted to give back to society something concrete.So she decided to write on such a sensitive topic.The going was tough.Many people refused to speak.Some others spoke & yet ,chose to remain anonymous.
The meet was anchored by Kiran Manral ,a parent blogger & author. Harish Iyer, activist, was present to offer his valuable insights.There was also lady from an NGO, which conducts sex education in schools among other activities.
Harish Iyer stated that he tried to tell his mom, that, he was being sexually abused by a relative in the joint family.His mother was unable to comprehend, that a male child could be sexually abused.This is due to the fact, that we are a patriarchal society.Statistics say, that, more boys are sexually abused compared to girls.
Harish Iyer informed that pedophiles can indulge in gang rapes of kids similar to the Suryanelli case.He himself came across a pedophile who boasted on the social network that he had sex with a child.Many wanted to know when they could do likewise.They wanted to share details of the victim The police made Harish Iyer go round in circles intialy.Finally ,the pedophile was arrested & punished,all thanks to the efforts of Harish Iyer.
Kiran Manral said that it is very important, for a child to learn about sex organs.Only then, can the child understand, if any touch is good or bad.The NGO lady said that the parents are taught about the various ways a child may be touched .Next come,the kids who are taught about the type of touch ,who can touch them & where etc.
The trauma of child sex abuse lasts for years, maybe, even decades & victims feel guilty, all the while.It was emphasised , that the victim is never ever responsible for being sexually abused.A majority of the victims keep mum as they are afraid & or they fail to understand that what is being done to them, is wrong and criminal.Many a times, .the abuser /s are persons who are trusted by the child .The sexual abuse shatters the trust & confidence of the child.
Another aspect of our patriarchal society is that boys, who come of age, are enticed and or seduced to learn the art of sex.Yet ,this is another form of sexual abuse.
The meet was quite an eye opener.The meet was a step to raise awareness about the evils of Child Sex Abuse.Unless,we speak against Child Sex Abuse ,it will keep on rising.Silence aids & abets such acts .Hence,it is high time ,we take#PledgeToProtect #csaam.
Please visit the csaam on facebook to become aware of the dangers of child sexual abuse.It gives valuable & insightful updates.
This is my blog post for "T " for A to Z Blogging Challenge.
Sharing blog posts of fellow bloggers :
Vinita Bahl
Kajal Kapur
The author Payal Shah Karwa wanted to give back to society something concrete.So she decided to write on such a sensitive topic.The going was tough.Many people refused to speak.Some others spoke & yet ,chose to remain anonymous.
The meet was anchored by Kiran Manral ,a parent blogger & author. Harish Iyer, activist, was present to offer his valuable insights.There was also lady from an NGO, which conducts sex education in schools among other activities.
Harish Iyer stated that he tried to tell his mom, that, he was being sexually abused by a relative in the joint family.His mother was unable to comprehend, that a male child could be sexually abused.This is due to the fact, that we are a patriarchal society.Statistics say, that, more boys are sexually abused compared to girls.
Harish Iyer informed that pedophiles can indulge in gang rapes of kids similar to the Suryanelli case.He himself came across a pedophile who boasted on the social network that he had sex with a child.Many wanted to know when they could do likewise.They wanted to share details of the victim The police made Harish Iyer go round in circles intialy.Finally ,the pedophile was arrested & punished,all thanks to the efforts of Harish Iyer.
Kiran Manral said that it is very important, for a child to learn about sex organs.Only then, can the child understand, if any touch is good or bad.The NGO lady said that the parents are taught about the various ways a child may be touched .Next come,the kids who are taught about the type of touch ,who can touch them & where etc.
The trauma of child sex abuse lasts for years, maybe, even decades & victims feel guilty, all the while.It was emphasised , that the victim is never ever responsible for being sexually abused.A majority of the victims keep mum as they are afraid & or they fail to understand that what is being done to them, is wrong and criminal.Many a times, .the abuser /s are persons who are trusted by the child .The sexual abuse shatters the trust & confidence of the child.
Another aspect of our patriarchal society is that boys, who come of age, are enticed and or seduced to learn the art of sex.Yet ,this is another form of sexual abuse.
The meet was quite an eye opener.The meet was a step to raise awareness about the evils of Child Sex Abuse.Unless,we speak against Child Sex Abuse ,it will keep on rising.Silence aids & abets such acts .Hence,it is high time ,we take#PledgeToProtect #csaam.
Please visit the csaam on facebook to become aware of the dangers of child sexual abuse.It gives valuable & insightful updates.
This is my blog post for "T " for A to Z Blogging Challenge.
Sharing blog posts of fellow bloggers :
Vinita Bahl
Kajal Kapur
12 comments:
Thank you for this post Vasudha. I wasn't aware of the FB page dedicated to this cause.It is indeed unfortunate that kids are subjected to such monstrous deeds by trusted adults. It sickens me to the core.
Thank you ,Prathima Rao ! Child Sex abuse is a widespread evil which happens behind closed doors .Children in most cases, suffer silently.
The book is on such an important subject...we really need to promote this
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Yes,Nabanita ! Such books need to be promoted.
Thanks for sharing taht FB page in the end and thanks a lot for writing this ! I appreciate the efforts of Harish Iyer. How many come fwd and do it ?
This is the sickest possible crime :)
It is preposterous that there exist monsters who feed off the innocence of children and do the unthinkable to them. God Forbid, such stuff doesn't ever happen to kids we know, but we need to explain the good and the bad touch to them.
Thank you,Afshan ! I agree that very few people like Harish Iyer will come forward & go all the way, to punish pedophiles.
Yes,Richa there are many such pedophiles who catch kids unawares .That is why ,the concept of touch-good & bad needs to be taught to the kids.
Guess at least now the parents wake up to this 'disease' in our society and be more vigilant of their kids.
Yes,Janaki,let's hope parents will learn to protect their kids against this menace.
Thank you so much for again shining a light on this subject, which has such stigma, yet must be faced full on because the people most affected cannot stand up for themselves. They are too little and too young. We who are grown up have to be responsible.
!!! Sincerely, jean
This is a very pertinent post. Creating awareness goes a long way in preventing abuse.
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